Week 2: Marriage Trends and Divorce

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As I have looked over the past week and all the things I have learned, it is no wonder that Satan is after such an important and amazing life goal that we have. Marriage is so sacred to our Heavenly Father’s plan, that Satan will do anything he can to destroy it. Satan has made it his power to do what he can to make sure that we do not have the happiness that Heavenly Father wants us to have. In Doctrine and Covenants 49: 15 it states, “And again, verily I say unto you, that whoso forbiddeth to marry is not ordained of God, for marriage is ordained of God unto man.” This quote allows us to see that Satan is at work here on the earth. He is making sure that more and more people are not interested in marriage as he dangles other “better” things in front of our faces. Satan says, “hey why not just cohabitate, nothing will go wrong” or “why not have a child out of wedlock, trust me it is for the best”. These are just a few of the things that Satan wants you to think are good things, however they are not. According to the 2012 State of the Unions Address between 1960 and 2011, cohabitation has risen seven fold and the number of children being born into cohabitating families is now over 40 percent. With stats like these it is shows how hard and fast Satan is working.

It is no wonder that the millennials are less focused on marriage then any age before. The youth of today (myself included) have had the worst generation to look up to when it come to marriage. With divorce rates at a staggering 40-50 percent, it is no wonder that youth today do not want to get married. It seems that there is no hope for those who are looking forward to marriage. During the 1980s divorce was at an all time high for the United States, it has since been declining, but still not enough people are willing to fight the battles to make sure that their marriage lasts. Fear not young millennials there is hope in our future! According to the 2010 State of the Union Address there are social factors that will help determine if your marriage will end up in divorce in the first 10 years or not.

Factors Percent Decrease in Risk of Divorce
Annual income over $50,000 (vs. under $25,000) -30
Having a baby seven months or more after marriage

(vs. before marriage)

 

-24
Marrying over 25 years of age (vs. under 18) -24
Family of origin intact (vs. divorced parents) -14
Religious affiliation (vs. none) -14
College (vs. high school dropout) -25

As you can see by this table if you fall into these categories, your chances for a divorce in your first 10 years of marriage is decreased.

I think that as millennials, we need to look to the sacred part of marriage and not just how convenient marriage can be (I have heard there are good tax breaks for those who are married). We must look at what Heavenly Father wants from us in a marriage. We need to remember that when entering a marriage, it is not just two people coming together as one, but we need to always remember that a marriage is 3 people (Husband, Wife and Heavenly Father). It is a husband willing to give 100 percent all the time and a wife willing to give 100 percent all the time. Marriage is not a 50/50 thing; it is each person giving there all to the other in times of good and bad.

I think that as a twenty something young women who is single, I am always looking for couples who show me what a marriage should be like or I am constantly looking for advice for my future family. There are two couples that I great admire for their marriage skills, they seem to have the 3 person (husband, wife and Heavenly Father) marriage down and they understand that marriage is 100% from both sides. These couples are my brothers and their wives. They have shown me what it is like to be a solid christian couple and they are not afraid to show their flaws. They fight, they argue but they love each other unconditionally for who they are, not for who they wish they were. I think that more people need to find couples like these to see how marriage is not always happiness and butterflies, sometimes there is garbage lying around, or a house that needs to be cleaned, or an argument about money and those stinky socks that missed the 3 pointer laundry basket toss by a mile, but it is in these times that you need to know that the person you are pared with, will love you for all eternity.

References

State of the Union Address (2012). Retrieved September 19, 2016 from http://www.stateofourunions.org/2012/SOOU2012.pdf

 

 

 

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